[Repost from last year - great reminder for myself and others]
I’ve read online that 80%+ of New Year’s resolutions fail. FAIL!
It seems like the movie Ground Hog day every year - minus the happy ending. What to do? I don’t like failing and I’m sure you feel the same way…
I decided to write about two things:
- How to write some kick ass new year resolutions (Great questions for you to ask)
- Some tips on how to do better this year (To increase your success ratios)
Reflecting on 2012
If you’re going to learn how to be a better person, a great place is to look at your past. The good and the bad. Here are some questions to ponder (I cobbled this together from many sources online):
- What went well in 2012? (Make a list of 10 items that made you happy, proud, your successes or something you can celebrate - even small ones are ok)
- What did not go well in 2012? (Be real here, you’ll learn a tonne by asking this one question - where did you fall short, what failed/didn’t work for you?)
- What are the 3 best lessons I learnt over the last 12 months? (don’t make this over complicated - first three that come to mind is good enough)
- What was I doing (behaviour wise) when I achieved my best results in 2012? (Think back to one of your successes in 2012 - Were you in the “Zone”? Define that…)
- What baggage from 2012 can I drop? (Everyone has baggage!)
2013 - To a Bigger, Badder, Sexier You ;)
If you do these questions, I know you’ll have a good idea of what you want to accomplish this year.
- What would make me Happier? (It could be more of something or less of something - you decide which one motivates you more)
- What are my Big 5 Goals for 2013? (Feel free to pick from multiple areas like health, family, wealth, spirituality, learning, etc.)
- What things can I stop doing NOW?
- Are there any small nagging issues weighing down my happiness? (This may drive other actions you need to take)
- What are three words or values you can use to define your 2013?
Tips to help you succeed:
- Make sure ALL your goals are S.M.A.R.T - Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time Bound. Ex. I want to be healthier in 2013 = FAIL. Ex. I will exercise 60 minutes per week to train for and run a marathon by June 30, 2013 = SMART!
- What concrete actions would bring about your big 5 goals for 2013? (One of the most powerful things I did in 2012 was to join a group of men that were accountable to each other for accomplishing their goals)
- Stick to one big goal per month - something will slip if you take on too much. Break your goals down by month if you can.
- Start small and work your way up. Iterate upwards, not downwards ;)
- Find a way to hold yourself accountable - post your goals publicly, tell your friends about your specific resolutions or find a partner in crime who has the same goals.
- Most importantly: Look at your big 5 goals + your concrete plan every day. Post them in multiple visible locations around your house.
Next steps for me - I’m going to post some of my goals publicly. I wrote this post for myself as well…lol ;)
Cheers and feel free to offer suggestions or ideas in the comment section below…
~ Rup Jolly
I used to be really proud of being an ‘Idea Man’ - you could give me almost any scenario and in a short while I’d be able to synthesize a very good solution for your issue. I’ve done this hundreds of times and often amaze myself with what I come up with.
But it’s not that important. It’s really not.
I’ve been learning over the last 10+ years, that it’s the guys that execute who deliver the greatest amount of value. The guys who put their heads down to get it done - they may not be the smartest, most creative or even the most talented, but if they can create and finish something, they’ve done what most people can’t. (And if they are super smart and talented - well watch out!)
We live in a world of consumerism. Most people are not creators and that’s ok, not everyone wants to be.
Ex. Most people read other updates on Facebook, but how many of us actually create our own content? publish their own art? share their own stories that they experienced? You can say we’ve been trained very well to be excellent consumers, but the same training for being a creator is not as prevalent.
This post is my cheers to the Do-ers of the world and the one inside me as well.
Keep doing your thing, even if no one is watching.
Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that all was vanity; but the dreamers of day are dangerous men, for they act their dream with eyes wide open and make it possible. — T. E. Lawrence