Legendary psychologist Barry Schwartz, author of the enormously stimulating Practical Wisdom: The Right Way to Do the Right Thing, on our loss of wisdom.
It’s a skill that every leader should develop:
“The concept of Negative Capability is the ability to contemplate the world without the desire to try and reconcile contradictory aspects or fit it into closed and rational systems.”
It’s being able to explore ideas that you may not fully agree with - If you grow this skill, it’ll allow you the ability to see the world with a much wider lens and give you a much richer way of finding solutions…
[Repost from last year - great reminder for myself and others]
I’ve read online that 80%+ of New Year’s resolutions fail. FAIL!
It seems like the movie Ground Hog day every year - minus the happy ending. What to do? I don’t like failing and I’m sure you feel the same way…
I decided to write about two things:
- How to write some kick ass new year resolutions (Great questions for you to ask)
- Some tips on how to do better this year (To increase your success ratios)
Reflecting on 2012
If you’re going to learn how to be a better person, a great place is to look at your past. The good and the bad. Here are some questions to ponder (I cobbled this together from many sources online):
- What went well in 2012? (Make a list of 10 items that made you happy, proud, your successes or something you can celebrate - even small ones are ok)
- What did not go well in 2012? (Be real here, you’ll learn a tonne by asking this one question - where did you fall short, what failed/didn’t work for you?)
- What are the 3 best lessons I learnt over the last 12 months? (don’t make this over complicated - first three that come to mind is good enough)
- What was I doing (behaviour wise) when I achieved my best results in 2012? (Think back to one of your successes in 2012 - Were you in the “Zone”? Define that…)
- What baggage from 2012 can I drop? (Everyone has baggage!)
2013 - To a Bigger, Badder, Sexier You ;)
If you do these questions, I know you’ll have a good idea of what you want to accomplish this year.
- What would make me Happier? (It could be more of something or less of something - you decide which one motivates you more)
- What are my Big 5 Goals for 2013? (Feel free to pick from multiple areas like health, family, wealth, spirituality, learning, etc.)
- What things can I stop doing NOW?
- Are there any small nagging issues weighing down my happiness? (This may drive other actions you need to take)
- What are three words or values you can use to define your 2013?
Tips to help you succeed:
- Make sure ALL your goals are S.M.A.R.T - Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time Bound. Ex. I want to be healthier in 2013 = FAIL. Ex. I will exercise 60 minutes per week to train for and run a marathon by June 30, 2013 = SMART!
- What concrete actions would bring about your big 5 goals for 2013? (One of the most powerful things I did in 2012 was to join a group of men that were accountable to each other for accomplishing their goals)
- Stick to one big goal per month - something will slip if you take on too much. Break your goals down by month if you can.
- Start small and work your way up. Iterate upwards, not downwards ;)
- Find a way to hold yourself accountable - post your goals publicly, tell your friends about your specific resolutions or find a partner in crime who has the same goals.
- Most importantly: Look at your big 5 goals + your concrete plan every day. Post them in multiple visible locations around your house.
Next steps for me - I’m going to post some of my goals publicly. I wrote this post for myself as well…lol ;)
Cheers and feel free to offer suggestions or ideas in the comment section below…
~ Rup Jolly